A post written by Women’s Center student staff member, Carrie Cleveland

I have never been one to label myself a feminist. I think it is because what comes into my mind when I think of feminism is the 1960s – 1970s pop culture version where women were marching in the street and burning their bras (come to find out that this idea in my head is actually a myth). I never really identified with those women, so I pushed the topic to the side. THEN….. I started working here in the Women’s Center.

As a staff member, we are all encouraged to actively learn and one of the ways that I’m doing that is by reading. My background on all things feminism is much more  grounded in pop culture than it is theory. I’ve never taken a Gender and Women’s Studies class, like so many of my Women’s Center peers. Sometimes I struggle with the language and the theory so we thought this would be a good way for me to start my learning. Jess suggested that I dip my toe into the feminist blogosphere and start with some more approachable topics and accessible authors. As I’m reading and clicking and getting lost in all things women, I came across this blog written by Jamie Kennedy titled 10 Things Feminist Moms Do Differently Than Any Other Parents.

As I was scrolling, I was pleasantly surprised by what I saw. One of the first ideas the author presents is about disrupting gender norms. Now I have three girls and a VERY handy husband. He’s always building or fixing something so we did not hesitate to get my kids a tool set when they were little. When my husband was beginning a project, my daughter would run down and grab her hammer so she could help her dad with something. Perhaps these experiences are why she sees being a scientist and an astronaut as career options. I never thought of that as feminist idea, more so that she wanted to hang out with her dad. Look at that! I did not even know I was challenging gender norms. Go me! 

One of the next topics explored that resonated with me was about consent. There was a time where another daughter was playing soccer and this boy pushed her. It was not part of the game; he just walked up to her and pushed her down. She came off the field and on the sideline we were having a conversation about her telling that boy that he had no right to touch her in that way. The blog pointed out to me that this was laying the groundwork about consent. It also opened the door for more conversation about personal space, boundaries, and expectations for ourselves and others. Again, my purpose was not intentional, but woohoo!

I basically found myself nodding my head to the memes about vaginas and of supporting whatever choice a woman makes about working. Ranting (which is explained in the blog as way to show our children we are passionate and thoughtful people too!), well I truly thought that was the Jersey in me and not the feminist, but why can’t it be both, right?More feminism that I did not even know about. As I reflect about who I am now and what the word feminist means, I’m starting to understand that feminism has a broader meaning. I now feel like I can embrace the label “feminist” and be more cognizant of my parenting choices when talking about women and gender. Next time my daughters say something about boys and girls, I imagine these ideas will come to mind when I thoughtfully choose to my words.

My oldest daughter visiting NASA Goddard with the Girl Scouts.

I want my daughters to know that they can do anything. My oldest is determined to be an astronaut and I realize now that she has no idea that Sally Ride did something unthinkable to many in 1983 because it is not unthinkable to her. The American Association of University Women (AAUW) put together this report on why women in STEM is so important and here is another blog post about how we don’t even recognize successful women who are already in STEM.

My daughter, Vivian, hanging out at the Women’s Center working away

Moms know we are often very reluctant to sing our own praises, but hopefully I am doing something right with these three girls. Who knows, maybe one of them will be the director the Women’s Center one day.

Highlighted Events:

A reflection written by Women’s Center staff member, MJ Jalloh Jamboria

Beyoncé’s newest hit, “Formation” has been the topic of conversation everywhere. If you missed the video, here it is!

Since her Super Bowl performance on February 7th, Beyoncé has received mountains of praise and criticism for her performance and newest video. (Also, take a second to watch the Super Bowl performance here if you haven’t already. Ready? OK!)

While surfing Twitter during the Super Bowl performance (obviously not as Bey was singing), I came across a tweet that angered me to my very core. In efforts to find the original tweet, I came up empty handed, so instead I’ll summarize. The author of the tweet expressed anger at the hairstyle Beyoncé chose to rock for her Super Bowl performance, specifically the color and texture of her weave.

Credit: Getty Images

Their ire was grounded in the fact that Beyoncé’s weave wasn’t aligned with the pro-blackness and importance of self-identity portrayed within her video.

Trying to isolate my frustration with the tweet, I found myself asking (and later dissecting) the following questions:

• Why are people focusing on her hair style?
• Why is wavy, blonde hair considered anti-black and indicative of self-hate?? 

First of all, weaves are not always indicative of hatred of one’s own natural hair! Beyoncé, and black women everywhere, are entitled to having and wearing the hairstyles that express themselves or the person they choose to personify. Seemingly, the choice to wear her hair long, blonde and wavy (as opposed to in an afro, like her performers) was a PERSONAL CHOICE (or between herself and her stylist). It seemed as if the author of the tweet thought Beyonce’s lack of afro or other natural hairstyle was a rejection of blackness. The idea that Black women should stick to a limited number of styles to be considered beautiful or “black enough” is ridiculous! Second, long blonde hair does not belong to one racial or ethnic group.

At first, I was upset that people weren’t paying attention to the positive messages in her song, video and performance. For example, her section of the Super Bowl performance paid homage to Malcolm X, the Black Panther Party and Michael Jackson. Similarly, the “Formation” video recreates and depicts the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina and begins to challenge and shed light on larger systems of police brutality and anti-blackness.

Perhaps I was even upset that people were attacking my beloved queen.

Me @ the mere mention of Beyonce

But again, I realized I needed to think more critically about black hair politics. Too often have I heard the ways in which artificial relaxers and perms kits ruined the naturally bodacious curl patterns and beautifully kinky hair of young girls and women alike. In fact, I lived it. I lived through hot combs and suffered the consequences of rocking baby hairs before they were a trend. I vividly remember crying every time my hair was subjected to being plaited into neat cornrows, through tears asking my mom why my hair couldn’t be straight like the other pretty (white) girls at school.

Without fully knowing it, at an early age I understood the ways in which hair was racially coded and tied to constricting beauty standards for women. Looking back, I was beginning to see the possible reasons as to why the author of the tweet may have felt betrayed by Beyoncé’s selection of hairstyle.

I wanted to continue to reflect on the policing of Black women’s hair and beauty standards and I remembered the recent controversy over military bans on specific hairstyles. Initial restrictions banned many types of hairstyles (including locs and two-strand twists) but restrictions were later dialed back to allow two-strand twists as a permissible style. The thought of an institution banning something as arbitrary as hair seemed bizarre but I understood this was just another way of constricting black and female autonomy and categorizing good versus bad, acceptable versus rejected, manageable versus kinky.

However, the “Formation” video, the Super Bowl performance, and Beyoncé’s lyrics highlight some amazing things as well. One of the lines from “Formation” is “I like my baby hair with baby hair and afro’s.”

Remember that time there was a petition to have Blue’s parents change her hair? No? Revisit that awful moment in history HERE.

Not only did Beyoncé feature her daughter in the video, she acknowledged the texture of Blue Ivy’s hair, and featured her beside two other beautiful children with similarly curly hair. Her video also features women of different hairstyles and Beyoncé herself switches between a plethora of hairstyles. Her video highlights just a few of the ways in which black hair is versatile and beautiful.

In a society where women, specifically black women, aren’t always taught to value their features and beauty, but instead alter and damage their natural beauty, I feel Beyoncé, her video, and her performance continued to allow for necessary and important discourse on black hair.

A resource round-up provided by Women’s Center staff member, Meagé Clements

In case you missed yesterday’s roundtable on Black Trauma and Mental Health (or if you were there and want to keep the conversation going), I thought it might be useful to share some resources that have helped me, as a Black woman, deal with my own experiences of Black trauma. It’s hard to summarize everything that was discussed; however much of the discussion revolved around the problematic “Strong Black Woman” stereotype. We also discussed the experiences of tokenization, involuntary (or feeling it necessary to have to be the) spokesperson in class, and microagressions. Black trauma isn’t just one kind of experience, and certainly isn’t only what is captured by the media. Rather it is a daily and ongoing experience – much like a death by a 1000 cuts. Below are just a few resources I’ve found helpful in learning that I, too, can be strong AND vulnerable.

The poem Dr. Jasmine Abrams shared: The Strong Black Woman is Dead

Dr. Abrams kicked off the discussion by asking us to close our eyes as she read the poem, “The Strong Black Woman is Dead”

News Outlets and Blogs:

NPR: Codeswitch – Frontiers of Race, Culture, and Ethnicity

“Code Switch is a team of seven NPR journalists who cover race, ethnicity and culture. Our work appears on-air and online, across NPR’s shows and digital outlets. We produce this blog, a Tumblr, a Twitter stream, and a Facebook feed.”

• Coping While Black: A Season of Traumatic News Takes A Psychological Toll
• How Black Reporters Report on Black Death
• Ta-Nehisi Coates Looks At The Physical Toll of Being Black in America

For Harriet – Celebrating the Fullness of Black Womanhood

“For Harriet is an online community for women of African ancestry. We encourage women, through storytelling and journalism, to engage in candid, revelatory dialogue about the beauty and complexity of Black womanhood. We aspire to educate, inspire, and entertain.”

@ForHarriet on Twitter | forharriet on Facebook

• Why We Must Finally Pay Attention to Black Women’s Mental Health
• Facing Black Mental Health

Black Girl Dangerous – Amplifying the Voices of Queer and Trans People of Color

“BGD seeks to, in as many ways as possible, amplify the voices, experiences and expressions of queer and trans people of color… BGD is a place where we can make our voices heard on the issues that interest us and affect us, where we can showcase our literary and artistic talents, where we can cry it out, and where we can explore and express our “dangerous” sides: our biggest, boldest, craziest, weirdest, wildest selves.”

• “We Are Not All Strong Black Women”
• “Got Anxiety or Mental Distress? Me, too. Here’s How We Can All Support Each Other”

Articles and Books on the subject:

Between the World and Me
Black Pain: It Just Looks Like We’re Not Hurting
Racial Bias in Perceptions of Others’ Pain
I Don’t Feel Your Pain – A Failure of Empathy Perpetuates Racial Disparities
‘I Can’t Breath’: African-Americans, Race Trauma, and PTSD
Dark Times Under the Radar: Black Women and Mental Illness
Racism’s Psychological Toll

On-campus resources:

UMBC Counseling Center
Women of Color Coalition
Critical Social Justice (October 2016)

Thanks to our panel members for sharing their experiences related to mental health and black trauma. Pictured left to right: Dr. Jasmine Abrams, Brianna Jackson, Dr. Tammy Henderson, & Donna-Lee Mahabeer

Read More from Other Roundtable Roundups:
White Womanhood + Critical Whiteness Resources Round-Up (September 2015)