What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word “grief”?  

Far too often, we think of grief in terms of dealing with the loss of a loved one or illness. But we can also grieve the end of something –  a relationship or a major life change –  or even having to come to terms with something being different than we expected, like graduating during the COVID-19 Pandemic.  

The pandemic has changed so much of our lives, and shifted the college experience in a major way.  

• Maybe you were in the middle of your first year in March 2020 and have yet to return to campus. 

• Perhaps you are graduating this spring and have to celebrate virtually.  

• Maybe you didn’t get to have the college roommate experience 

If you have had a tough time being able to celebrate your accomplishments, you are not alone. For years you have dreamed about what your college experience or graduation day would look like, and now it is completely different. 

It is ok to have complicated feelings about ending one chapter and beginning another.

While some students may have dealt with grief related to the virtual learning transition, including moving off campus, there may be students who are grieving the loss of a loved one or having to take care of an ill family member. The grieving process typically happens in five stages: 

1. Denial 

2. Anger 

3. Bargaining

4. Sadness

5. Acceptance

Unfortunately, grief is not a linear process and sometimes you go back and forth between stages. But don’t fret. While grieving is not an easy thing to deal with, over time the intensity will decrease. 

As you process major life changes during these unprecedented times, here are some tips to help with the transition:

• Two things can be true: You can be excited to graduate and be disappointed that you will not have the traditional graduation.

• Any milestone that you have been able to accomplish this year is a MAJOR feat.  Your resilience and tenacity are remarkable and should be celebrated.

• Find safe ways to reconnect with your support system so that you don’t feel alone.

• Practice self-care to help you cope with the tough days.

• Contact the UMBC counseling center to schedule an appointment and learn about the available resources to help process your grief.

Remember, grief is not reserved for loss. Major life transitions can result in a mix of emotions that may be hard to explain and that is normal. Grief can hit in waves, with you having good days reflecting on the good times followed by a series of bad days filled with confusion, sadness, and anger about what has transpired. During tough times, recognize that you are not alone, lean into your support system, and trust that it will get better.

The legacy Pulse VPN has suffered a hardware failure and may not be recoverable. To access campus resources remotely please use the GlobalProtect VPN. Instructions for accessing this can be found here.

In January 2020 DoIT announced the replacement of the Pulse VPN with a new product. At that time, the Pulse VPN had reached its end of life and could no longer be supported. Since that time most of the campus has adopted the GlobalProtect solution however, DoIT has tried to maintain the Pulse system to support a graceful migration. 

Over the last two days the Pulse system has suffered hardware failures that have become increasingly worse. Yesterday the Network team was able to restore service to the unit after a hardware failure took it offline. Today this service experienced a more severe hardware failure and recovery may not be possible. We will continue exploring options to temporarily establish the Pulse VPN service but this will only be a short term resolution.

A link to the GlobalProtect VPN instructions are included above, we strongly urge you to begin using this service now. If you experience any challenges installing the new VPN software, please contact the Technology Support Center.

Ray Soellner

Assoc. Director / DoIT

rays1@umbc.edu

The Center for Democracy and Civic Life’s work builds from the idea that all of us, and the ways we pull together to address challenges and create our shared future, truly matter. Today we are releasing the May 2021 edition of Community Matters, a monthly newsletter that offers a window into this work. Read on to discover ways you can get involved and connect with each other, including by listening to the latest episodes of our podcast, Retriever Tales. 

April is Financial Literacy Month. Let’s take this opportunity to reflect on our financial well-being. But first, let’s acknowledge that the COVID-19 pandemic may have impacted our physical, social, and financial lives in some way. The pandemic has

• Increased unemployment in nearly every state.

• Highlighted the impact of socioeconomic inequality, particularly for women and people of color. 

• Changed the way college students learn. From connecting with study partners online to the infamous WebEx meetings, students and educators have been resilient through all of the past year’s challenges.

With the promise of vaccines available to all adults 16 years of age and older, the nation is grappling with the prospect of an economic recovery. And yes, before you ask— financial well-being IS a component of wellness. We must challenge ourselves to broaden our scope of what financial well-being means to us. Financial well-being is more than how much money you have in your bank account. Financial well-being is how we define our relationship with money. 

In honor of Financial Literacy Month, here are a few ways to make your relationship with money healthier.

1. Take inventory of your personal finances.Write down how much money you earn each month. Next, write down your fixed and variable expenses. Fixed expenses reoccur each month. This includes housing, tuition or student loans, and car payments. An emergency fund, which most experts agree should cover 3-6 months of expenses, is also a fixed expense. Variable expenses change each month, depending on your daily spending habits. Variable expenses include eating out, personal services (e.g. hair and nail care), clothing, and entertainment.
2. Create a budget. Now that you know how much money you earn and spend each month, you can create a budget that reflects your financial goals. Write out how much money you will spend for fixed and variable expenses each month. If you desire to grow your emergency fund, try reducing your variable expenses. Likewise, if you would like to move into a new place, start investing, or even give to a charity, you may be able to do this by saving more of your variable expenses. Just remember, your budget is more than a suggestion. You should aim to stick to your budget as much as possible if you want to achieve your goals.
3. Ditch the financial guilt. Whether we spent too much money eating out or missed a scholarship application deadline, we have all made a poor financial decision at some point in our lives. Your past relationship with money, which may include judgment, shame, and guilt for some, does not have to predict your financial future. If you purchased an item outside of your budget, it may not be too late to return or sell it. Regardless of your previous spending habits, you can always adopt new habits that prepare you for a healthier future.
4. Overcome FOMO. Everyone has felt the fear of missing out, or FOMO. From your friends planning a Spring Break trip for 2022 to seeing someone in a seemingly expensive new outfit on Instagram, we are wired to want to join others in their social media highlight reels. Nonetheless, comparing your financial journey with others is a sign of an unhealthy relationship with money. Your budget, financial goals, and income, will likely look different from your peers. It’s okay to skip an activity if it hinders you from sticking to your budget. To overcome the FOMO, try replacing this activity with an enjoyable activity that fits your budget.
5. Seek sound financial advice. Let’s face it, not all of us come from a family or culture in which money is openly discussed. Finances remain a taboo topic for most college students. We can combat unhealthy stigmas about money by seeking professional financial advice. Fortunately for students, UMBC’s Financial Smarts offers virtual tools for managing money at no cost. Check out the program’s CashCourse, CASHCoach, and CashClips at https://financialsmarts.umbc.edu/programs/. 

National Financial Literacy Month is both a celebration and a call to action. Maintaining a healthy relationship with money can be a daunting task. But, by taking small steps each day towards financial wellness, you can create a healthier tomorrow.